When children have committed mistakes, parents often blindly blame child, or even hitting the children, that do not speak criticism skills, results are often counterproductive. So, parents criticize their children should be careful to take what skills?
One whispered
Parents should be lower than normal voice criticism of the child, “low and powerful” sound, will cause the child’s attention, but also easy for children to pay attention to listen to what you say, that whispered the “cold treatment”, more often than harangues of better results.
The second is silent
Once their children have done something wrong, always worried that parents will blame him, if, as he thought, but the children have a “relief” feeling, the criticism and disapproval of their own also at fault; the contrary, if the parents remain silent, but will the child’s psychological tension, will feel “uncomfortable”, and then reflect on his mistakes.
Third, the implied
The child guilty of negligence, if the parents can calmly inspire children, not directly criticize his mistakes, the child will soon understand the intention of the parents, the parents are willing to accept criticism and education, but this would also protect the child’s self-esteem.
Fourth, a change in position
When the children were in trouble blame the parents, they often will blame to others, in order to avoid parental scolding. At this point the most effective way is when the child chicanery is the fault of others, does not matter with their own, you call him a “If you are that person, how would you explain”, which will make children think about: If they are someone else, what to say? This will cause most of the children found themselves at fault, and will encourage him reflect on his responsibility to put the blame all the mistakes of others.
Fifth, appropriate and timely
Children’s relatively poor sense of time, happened yesterday, seems to have been quite a few days, with children’s natural fun, just a mistake then quickly forgotten. Therefore, the parents criticized the children to build on the progress, not drag, or would not achieve proper educational role.